Coercive control is usually a pattern of behaviour rather than one isolated incident. It may be used to reduce another person’s independence, isolate them from support or create fear and dependence.
Possible warning signs
- monitoring where you go or who you speak to;
- making you account for your time;
- controlling what you wear, eat or do;
- restricting money or demanding explanations for spending;
- isolating you from friends, relatives or colleagues;
- using threats, humiliation or intimidation;
- monitoring phones, passwords or location;
- using children, pets, housing or immigration concerns as a means of control.
Look at the pattern
Individual incidents can sometimes appear small when viewed alone. The wider pattern and its impact on your choices, confidence and safety are important.
After separation
Control can continue after a relationship ends through repeated contact, finances, children, stalking, harassment or technology.
You do not need to prove that your experience meets a legal definition before seeking support. Pathway can provide information and practical support and signpost to appropriately qualified professionals where needed.